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This is a tribute to the nice guys, my brothers and my sanity....many thanks to you!!! To the nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what douche bags guys are (yes we all know not ALL are fist pumping, gel wearing liars and pigs), while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at 'girly stores' in the mall and help you pick out the perfect outfit for a night out, shoes and all. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny you are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl's every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.

This is for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the ones who help carry our belonging, for the guys who knows how long it took her to get ready and makes sure to tell her "wow you look great!", for the guy who takes you out on pseudo dates just so you know what it feels like to be treated like a princess, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters (PS Cheaters SUCK, I'd like to punch in the face!! same goes to liars!!)

For the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don't end up being boyfriends (um, yeah no idea), for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.

This is for those times she called you late on your cell phone for advice. For the times you tried to figure out what "that guy" was thinking and ended the call with a simple "Honestly, he's just got issues" And even though you thought her boyfriend was a jerk and knew he was not even good enough to "shine her shoes" lol, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn't worry about it. This is for when she realized he was right and even when she said "I should have listened" you laughed it off over pinot and chucked it up to experience. (minus the infamous 'i told u so') For the guy who will do anything to protect you, even if it means wearing an "Claudia’s Security" tshirt out to shield away losers who don't get the hint! Haha I love you for being my forcefield...

The nice guys don't often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don't seem to get girls as often as they should. Usually when they do it's undeserving, underappreciative chics who never realize how good they've got it. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can't. From what I have observed the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches and I use that term loosely because it can, and usually is interchangeable with psychopaths and/or pigs. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as "oh, he's too nice to date?" or "he would be a good boyfriend but he's not for me?" or "he's just not my type?" or "he's perfect, and oops I cheated on him" Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can't figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I'm going to date this complete ass now and let him treat me like garbage!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn't last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single...they do exist though…

So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. (Raising my PINOT as we speak) You know who you are, and I know you're sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your dinner escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgment, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.....like I always says "Patience is a virtue" and when those girls don't realize how good they have it/could of had it...I do realize...and I thank you for being YOU!

xoxo,

ClaudiaG